Best Article Ever....

This is the ultimate explanation to all those out there to the question of "What do you do all day when you stay at home with your kid." Well read on and it will explain it all to you.

I just hope those out there that read this take it to heart that we moms do a lot more then you can imagine.

The Way of the Pity.....

            I have come to the understanding that no matter how level headed you think a person is, they will always surprise you and do something irresponsible. I have left many friendships behind because of this. I do not and will not put up with stupidity if you are too ignorant to learn from it.  I believe I am in no way a person to judge any one but I will speak up as a friend and point out the obvious if you haven't seen it your self. I have two rules when you are with me, no drugs, and no alcoholics. Now I will have or hang out at a party and drink, that is not what I am saying. I am saying you are not to come near me or my kids drunk for no reason. Then again there is no reason to get drunk to the point of stupidity anyways. If you are that way, stay away. I left that crap in high school and I haven;t looked back.
          Anyways, The point I am making is this. As long as you take care of you and yours we are cool. However, when you call me up crying and sobbing because you don't know where your going to gas money for work, or how you are going to pay rent when you just had a wild weekend then we have a problem. I know I am not the best at managing bills and all but I make sure my bills are paid and if (and I mean a big IF) I have anything left, then I play. It has been almost 15 yrs since I have gone on a vacation that I have paid for. Sounds bad, but I have manged to keep a roof over my kids heads and food in there stomachs. My husband has gas in his truck and we pinch and save everywhere we can. I even went back to school so I could learn a new profession in this horrid economy. I cant seem to even get a job in medical field. I am going to have to go to the local McDonald's  and get a job. Oh well so be it. The problem I am having is that some would rather roll over in their own sorrow and pity then go out and do what is necessary.

           The solution to all this is simple, who cares if your nails are done and if you need a hair cut grab a scrunchy, and PUT YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES ON AND DEAL WITH IT!

Life in the way

                    I have always been a person who likes to keep up with people. I like to know what they are doing with their lives and I like knowing where they are headed. Some might call me nosy but I call myself curious. It is always exciting when you get reconnected with a friend and you have so much to talk about and then the worst possible thing happens. Your reunion gets cut short for what ever reason and you promise to keep in touch and you do, for a while. Then one day you realize you haven't talked to so-n-so in a few weeks. You tell yourself you will call this friend as soon as you get a free moment. Then that free moment gets here and you don't want to talk to anyone, so you tell yourself you will call tomorrow. Now I know people have the right intention to call or in this day Facebook but for some reason or another we sometimes fall out of touch and never pick it up. For some people it is harder to do then others. Maybe you let so much time go by that now you feel you cant call because you may have nothing in common any more. Then again it might have nothing to do with time but with a heavy heart or conscious, maybe you did something or vice-versa and the consequence has been hard to bare.

                   For what ever reason you have lost touch, maybe you should look at yourself and ask yourself, was it really worth it to lose touch with this friendship. If it wasn't worth it then ask yourself what you need to do to get it back. I am a person who will keep a friend forever as long as they don't cross the boundaries I have set out. I don't allow heavy drinking or any drug use around my children, and my husband is off limits. Other then that we are cool. I take everything with a grain of salt and if you cross a boundary I will politely put you in your place. However there have been a few people who have crossed this line more then once and I have written them off. Am I happy I did this? No. Will I do it again? I'm sure. I understand no one is perfect and I am no one to judge anybody but this is my life and I allow you to be in it. Wow that came out sounding bitchier then I thought it would.

                    Could you just imagine how many people would leave you behind if you told them the truth. I mean just think of yourself standing in front of a friend you has crossed you and you tell them "This is my life and I am allowing you to be in it, so behave of I am locking you out of it." Oh well, right? I mean are you suppose to walk on egg shells just because you don't want to hurt a persons feelings. However that doesn't mean you can be a flat out A-hole or Bitch to a person and think they will forgive you. If that is your idea of friendship then I would hate to meet the kids you grew up with.

                      Growing up I didn't have a lot of friends but what I did have was a few really good friendships. Even though we don't see each other everyday we still take time during the week to say Hi. Facebook helps but sometime you just need to pick up the phone and tell this person that "You are still an important part of my life and I have always and will always cherish our friendship." It is a simple statement but just think how hard it is to say it to someone you haven't talked to in a long time. Try it one day and post me a comment and let me know how it went. You might just surprise your friend and yourself.